We attended our first antenatal class on Wednesday evening, the first of 3.
I felt in no way intimidated or scared by attending, and I am happy to say that I am still feeling confident about the ‘big day’.
We had another Christmas Day due date, a Christmas Eve, New Years Eve. It was so nice to know that other expectant Mums were joining me in terrible timing.
I find it funny when people ask me what our due date is, as soon as I say ‘Christmas Day’ I get the look.
The look of ‘oh poor you’ and ‘well you didn’t time that very well did you’. I have learnt since falling pregnant that people don’t have a care in the world when they pass comment or opinion. They don’t know whether our pregnancy was planned, whether it was and it took months to happen, they don’t know whether I am feeling scared or confident about the journey so far. They just want to get their opinion out and then walk away not knowing how they have left you feeling.
Our pregnancy was planned, a part of our married lives I never thought would incur such heart ache.
Everyone’s journey to pregnancy is a different one, I don’t envy those that happened on the first try and I don’t feel joyous when I hear of others taking months and months. At the end of the day we are all wanting one thing, to become parents and when that moment happens, it will be as exciting for me as it is for the person who was lucky to begin that journey on the first go.
The main topic of this week’s class was ‘Pain Relief’. We learnt about epidurals, pethidine, the stages of labour and at which stage which pain relief option can be used. At this moment in time, I am all for an Active Birth. By active, I mean drug free, yes perhaps a little gas but the thought of an epidural certainly does not excite me.
I have made this decision based on the fact I want to be present during all stages of labour, I want to feel what my body wants to do, I would prefer to push when my body tells me to.
Don’t worry – I definitely have a backup plan! AN EPIDURAL !!
I told Rob that this whole theory may jump out the window the second I feel my first contraction, he just has to go along with what I say on the day. Fingers crossed he holds up his end of the bargain.
What were your birthing plans? Did you have one and did they last the distance?