I caught up with a work friend for lunch today, I entered the office and said hello to all the women I once worked with, as we were leaving to go to lunch, one of the women stopped me and did the normal ‘ooh’ and ‘aah’ at Sophie and ‘wow, she is so big’. I get this from every person I see, she is in the 97th percentile for her age, she isn’t completely off the charts, she is healthy and plus chubba bubbas are sooo much cuter.
Then came the question … ‘Are you still breastfeeding?’
Why do people feel the need to ask this question? Why do they feel it to be an important topic to raise when asking how everything is going as a new parent?
My answer … ‘No!’
The response … ‘Oh, that’s OK.’
I know it is … but thank you for feeling as though I needed your reassurance.
I always feel as though I have to then explain myself. I can never answer this question with just a no.
I couldn’t keep up with the demand
I always had problems with my supply
I fed and expressed to boost my supply but nothing helped
I breastfed until 8 weeks
I understand that breast is best but unfortunately not all women are able to provide this method of feeding to their newborns. Too much pressure is put on new Mums, I know from my own situation I completely beat myself up and believed that I was a failure when I finally dropped that last breastfeed.
This wasn’t fair on me or Sophie.
I am now 100% OK with feeding Sophie formula … out of a bottle. At first I was hesitant to pull the bottle out of her nappy bag whilst in public, worried about all of the gleaming eyes as I dared to place a bottle inside my 8 week olds mouth.
So for all of the women out there who feel it their right to ask me whether I am breastfeeding Sophie or not, please know that I do not appreciate your question and next time you may not appreciate my answer. Sophie sleeps through the night, goes down without hassle for day sleeps, has rolled over, is beginning to love nursery rhymes, smiles up at her Mummy with loving eyes, loves bath time and is an amazing addition to my life.
Those aspects of being a new Mum … I would LOVE to share with you.